What Women Want…

The title seems a bit daring, but I’m a man and grew up with a twin sister, and I’m a great dating coach, so I don’t think I have to put forth any more credentials than that. I’m going to make this post very blunt- I’m not one to beat around the bush.

Women want hunters, not gatherers. Women want men who still exhibit that primal instinct to go get what they want, not beg or ask for it. Hunters show assertiveness, and little fear. Real men don’t fall victim to their own circumstances, or wait for great things to happen- they make it happen, no matter what they do, or where they go.

Women want to see a lot of confidence in a man. Women want to see a man who can walk into a room, and take control; a man who ‘naturally exudes confidence’. A Man is very sure of himself and his direction; he knows who he is and what he wants, he’s also comfortable with making improvements and confronting his problems. Confidence is a natural thing- it cannot be rehearsed and women can sense an insecure, unconfident man immediately. Walk the walk- talk is cheap.

Women want genuineness, not ’swagger’ which is almost always fake. A man, who is secure in himself and comfortable in his own skin, naturally exudes confidence that’s impossible to forge. Many men still don’t know ‘who’ they are yet, and that’s fine- it’s a process. But a guy who has to drive the BMW, or talk about his career, or talk like a rap star or someone else who he’s not, is a fraud. You may be able to afford all the finer things in life, but genuineness cannot be bought. So, if you still go out pretending to be someone you’re not, every woman will be able tell you’re a fraud. Remember- you attract who you are: if you’re insecure, you’ll attract an insecure woman. If you truly want to Connect, you have to know who you are first. Finding yourself is imperative- I’ve helped many men with this issue.

Women want a sexual connection, not another ‘friend’. Being a nice guy goes very far, but women who seek a meaningful relationship seek that hunter with a sexual appetite. Women want to feel attractive, and like to be pursued. It’s a turn off for women if the man has no sexual aura, or is afraid to show attraction though physical contact. Making contact with the woman’s hand on a date is a must- a sexual and physical attraction is part of any relationship. Don’t be afraid to make physical contact on a date, just be sensitive to her comfort levels. A man who is afraid to make physical contact out of ‘respect’ for the woman is really just afraid- he must overcome this if he wants sex appeal.

There is a very modern problem today that really didn’t exist 15-20 years ago. Women today are very career driven and successful, and as a result they have acquired some very masculine qualities: they have become very dominant, very confident, and very assertive. All these qualities are perfect for the professional world, which is why they’re successful. I personally prefer a woman who is in control of her own destiny, however many guys out there are very unprepared. It still doesn’t change the game- women still want a real Man. The modern problem is that more men are becoming feminine, while more women are becoming hunters. I have successfully coached many guys to become the ‘man’ they need to be by drawing out those masculine traits, and highlighting them.

A real man is genuine- period. He loves himself and it shows because he naturally exudes confidence. You can be a real man and still go to the art museum, I do- but it doesn’t mean you lose your hunter instinct.

If you’re interested in learning more, please contact me- I’ve successfully helped men & women looking to attract their ideal partners through my coaching programs.

Patrick Coleman, President and Head Dating Coach of www.PhillyDatingCoach.com is passionate about coaching singles looking to improve their communication and dating skills to find true love. Patrick may be reached at patrick@phillydatingcoach.com for any inquiries regarding his coaching programs in the Philadelphia and surrounding areas.